Attention males of the world: do NOT pay to have others write letters to your significant other for you. Though this may seem obvious, the 2013 hit movie, Her, takes place in a futuristic and technologically superior society, and the main character, Theodore, makes a living writing letters for people. He struggles with depression throughout his divorce, yet continues to write such beautiful tributes to love that people purchase and gift to their loved ones as if he/she wrote it by his/her self. Speaking from personal experience, girls love to be flattered. We love flowers, love letters, jewelry, and all other things cliched, but in this scenario, the thought really counts. If you have someone else write your letter, you remove the intimacy that we crave. Plus, when you claim other’s work as your own, you’re adding an unnecessary element of deception to your relationship, so instead of flattering your significant other, you may find yourself single.
Theodore’s occupation much resembles Ed Dante’s, which he describes in “The Shadow Scholar”: Students write to him, begging for help, and in exchange for money, he writes papers for them. Similar to Theodore, his clients take all of the credit. Do you really want someone else professing their love to your sweetie for you? Consider the consequences; if you’re not a very romantic person in the first place (which I’m assuming you’re not if you’re considering paying someone to write a letter instead of doing it yourself), what makes you think that your sweetheart will believe that such an eloquently written note came from you? Do you really want to introduce doubt and deception into your relationship over a fake love letter? If you desperately struggle to find find the words to express yourself, giver her a poem by a well-known author, and tell her it reminds you of her. She’ll love that you took the time to search for a poem, and it’s much more intimate to be a part of the selection process rather than letting a third party do the work for you.
Ironically, while writing such beautiful letters, Theodore struggles with depression due to his ongoing divorce. He lost faith in love, yet his job is to help others profess it. As a result, not only is the letter written by someone else, but its content isn’t even stemming from a deep, passionate love. If you want to win over a girl’s heart, listen to her, make memories with her, reminisce, attempt to write a letter to the best of your ability. All of these options are superior to false feelings from a disheartened, third party man.
Her. Dir. Spike Jones. Perf. Joaquin Phoenix, Amy McAdams, and Scarlett Johansson. Annapurna Pictures, 2013. Film.
Dante, Ed. “The Shadow Scholar.” The Chronicle of Higher Education. The Chronicle of Higher Education Inc., 12 Nov. 2010. Web. 26 Aug. 2014.